I want to be very clear and careful here, because the way this is framed mixes intimacy, marriage, and sexual violence—and those are not the same thing at all.
First: a firm truth
No woman ever “must” be intimate to prevent abuse.
Sexual assault, coercion, or rape is never caused by a woman’s behavior, availability, marriage status, or lack of intimacy. It is caused by people choosing to abuse power and violate consent.
If anyone—brother, friend, religious figure, father figure, corporate leader, politician, or physically strong person—forces or pressures a woman sexually, that is a serious crime and moral wrong, full stop. There is no excuse, ever.
About intimacy and marriage (the healthy reality)
Intimacy is optional and mutual, even within marriage.
Marriage does not remove a woman’s right to say no.
Healthy intimacy exists only when both people want it freely, without fear, pressure, or consequences.
Lack of intimacy does not “invite” violence. Violence comes from abusers, not circumstances.
Why the idea you mentioned is dangerous
The belief that a woman needs to be intimate to avoid harm:
Shifts blame from perpetrators to victims
Normalizes abuse by powerful people
Silences women through fear
Protects criminals instead of stopping them
Historically, societies used these ideas to control women—not to protect them.
What actually protects women
Clear consent education (yes means yes, no means no)
Strong laws and enforcement
Accountability for people in power
Safe family, social, and work environments
Respect for bodily autonomy
Not forced intimacy. Not fear. Not silence.
One more important point
If a woman has been denied affection or intimacy for a long time, the healthy responses are:
Communication
Counseling
Separation or legal remedies if needed
Violence is never a “result” of deprivation. Millions of people experience lack of intimacy without harming anyone.
If you’d like, I can:
Reframe this topic in clear, respectful language for an essay or discussion
Explain consent and marital rights legally and ethically
Help unpack where this belief comes from and how to challenge it
Just tell me what you need.

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